My blogging buddy
Amber did this little meme on her blog today, and since I haven't invaded my own privacy too much lately, I decided to follow. Of course, the people who usually answer these are cute twentysomethings with cute twentysomething boyfriends/fiances/husbands, so I figured I'd give them a taste of what they might be writing 10 or 20 years from now when I do Paul's and mine.
How long have you been together?Since October '93.
How long did you know each other before you started dating?We worked together during the summer of '88. We started working together again in August '93. We ran into each other a couple of times in the interim, but we weren't keeping in touch. (These were pre-Facebook days!)
Who asked whom out?He asked me (of course!).
Whose siblings do you see the most?Mine. They're closer and younger. We don't overwhelm them, as we do Paul's family; plus, there are cousins for the kids to play with.
Did you go to the same school?
Are you from the same home town?No and no. But I went to college in his home town.
Who is smarter?He says me -- and that he was surprised when he figured that out. To be fair, he met me once I had learned how to be less of a show-off. I say that he has a thoughtful intelligence that is much more subtle but just as valuable. I'm "quicker" and score higher in IQ tests; he's much more intellectually tenacious, and I envy and admire that.
Where do you eat out most as a couple?No one place. Most of the places where we eat out, I've dug up some kind of deal.
Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?The Caribbean when we first got married. Before we were married, we visited my family in Albuquerque. A few years ago, we drove across the country for three weeks. The kids came on that one, of course.
Who has the craziest exes?Paul! He always says that he was drawn to women who appeared unique and independent. Oftentimes, however, that also meant more than a little bit crazy.
Who has the worst temper?Paul. But, because I don't have a temper to speak of, it is very effective when I do let it loose.
Who does the cooking?Me.
Who is the neat-freak?Paul. But he's not excessively so. The reality, though, is that any time there's two people, subtle differences are going to be highlighted.
Who is more stubborn?Paul.
Who hogs the bed?Neither. We have a huge bed -- and no kids in it anymore!
Who wakes up earlier?I wake up earlier naturally, when I don't have any responsibilities. Paul has to get up earlier to be at work at 7. He also suffers from insomnia, so he's up in the middle of night a lot.
Where was your first date?We went to see the movie "Rudy," which was terrible and which initially scared me a little when he asked me to go to it because I thought he might be a big, rah-rah Notre Dame fan. Big, rah-rah Notre Dame fans were one of the kinds of men I avoided. But there was just nothing else playing at the time. And it was fun to make fun of. Then we went to a little diner near the theater.
Who is more jealous?He's more possessive (particularly since I've lost weight), but I wouldn't call it jealous, as he's not worried. I'm more aware of when he has a female admirer, which he seldom picks up on. He finds it humorous when I tell him my "Being Out in L.A. As a Thinner Woman" stories, and they don't anger him.
How long did it take to get serious?We were engaged within seven months, married within 15 months of dating. (And pregnant very soon afterwards.) We didn't live together until we were married. I got to meet his family (at Thanksgiving dinner) within a month.
Who eats more?Before Oct. 2007, it was me. Now, it's Paul. (And he never gains an ounce!)
Who does the laundry?Paul does his own laundry and he'll also throw in towels and sheets. I do mine and the younger children's. The older children do their own.
Who’s better with the computer?We're about the same.
Who drives when you are together?Usually me. I know L.A. so much better. Of course, that just makes the disparity that much greater, so he also tries to get out there on his own once in a while.
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