A few months ago, I wrote about this
thing I was doing, where I smile at people, primarily service employees.
It has been quite a success. It hasn't gotten me in any trouble with men, as it did occasionally when I was heavier and apparently appeared desperate, at least more desperate than I appear now. It has made a huge difference with the women I come across.
Except for one.
At the dentist, there is this twentysomething receptionist, who, no matter how nice I was to her, gave me nothing but attitude. I see her All The Time, since each of the kids and Paul and I go twice a year. I noticed she was really sweet to Paul and chatted with other people. But I got nothing but the Icicle Treatment.
So, yesterday, I brought out the heavy artillery. I had to buy a sweetened coffee drink for one of my little jobs, which I couldn't drink, so I gave it to her.
Score!
I have a new best friend.
Seriously, though, the results of the Smile Test have been interesting. Going out of my way to be nice to clerks has been a) easy and b) very pleasant. I always said a polite "thank you," but now, with the genuine smile and eye contact, it really enhances my little errands. It's pretty surprising to clerks to have people engage them, which makes it all the more fun for me.